Can you rest in a place of wanting nothing for others? Not wanting them to think a certain way (because it will help), to experience a certain energy or emotion (because it will help), or to take a particular action (because it will help).
The shadow side of caring is your agenda. And you are, in both subtle and not-so-subtle ways, constantly communicating your agenda.
Your clients will detect it too, often as a kind of energetic pressure, and may, in their own way, resist that pressure, if not get turned off from working with you.
Instead, rest in a space of listening deeply to what wants to happen within that person. This is Deep Coaching Practice 6: Attune to your client’s deepest sense of self and let that lead. Listen at a surface level to what is being said and asked for, and listen to the depth, and allow what you hear at both levels to influence your thoughts, questions, and actions. If you are not sure which way to go, ask Spirit for guidance.
The deep listening part is key to dissolving your agenda. When you listen deeply to the song of another’s Self and soul, it nurtures that voice forward. It’s like, once it becomes heard it becomes known, and this has an effect on the way your conversation unfolds. You will be influenced by that voice in ways that support your client, and this will help keep your wants and agenda from encroaching.